Approaching the third age
After a LinkedIn post prompted by a particularly challenging day at work, Annie Brandner —whom I knew from my days working for religious freedom — reached out, telling me about InHabit Magazine, and inviting me to contribute. My first thought, I must admit - was that if she is now in the second half of life, then at 61 I am fast approaching what my French friends refer to as la troisième age or the third age. The dreaded R word appears on the horizon. I find myself looking at campervans (RVs to you across the pond), planning holidays (vacations) for the coming one, two, three, even four summers!
This is a time when, in theory, I should be slowing down. But with elderly parents, three consultancies, a job and, sadly, a wife going through chemo — plus two very active Border Collies and a tennis club that demands my presence 2-3 times a week — the idea of a paper, a pipe and a pair of slippers seems far far away. (NB I don’t, nor have I ever, smoked a pipe!)
A series of unconventional choices
So how – or maybe why — do I manage this juggling act three years off that mystical age of “when I’m 64”?
My choice echoes one made by a former colleague and city banker who chose, at the age of 55, to get off the career treadmill and become an accounts assistant for Hostelling International. As a career-focused 35 year old at the time, I could not comprehend his choice to sacrifice a great career and all its trappings just to spend 6 days a week on the golf course — especially while his wife continued to globe trot in her international marketing role.. But then, years later when I stepped down from my last CEO role, I also just knew I was done.
I had a couple of engaging consultancies following that. I even tried teaching kids French and German in the very year the UK chose to commit its ultimate act of hari-kari – otherwise known as Brexit. So that didn’t end well.