gath·er·ing

an assembly or meeting, especially a social or festive one or one held for a specific purpose.
"a family gathering"

For as long as humans have existed, we’ve gathered. Around fires, tables, and now video calls, gathering is how we’ve survived, celebrated, grieved, and made meaning together. It’s in these moments that we experience both the comfort and challenge of connection.

Gathering can be messy. It exposes rifts, highlights our differences, and sometimes, when we feel we can’t bridge the divides, leaves us feeling even more isolated and alone. In today’s charged climate, amid political and ideological rifts and a loneliness epidemic, it would be easy to retreat, to believe the distance between us is too great. 

I think this is why gathering now — right when it feels most difficult — may be especially valuable. As Dr. Brené Brown reminds us, “People are hard to hate close up. Move in.” Our best hope of finding each other again, right in the mess and across the divides, is to reach out with compassion and curiosity, patience and good boundaries. And through it all, remember to take good care of yourself, too.

Gathering this year might be deeply joyful, profoundly difficult or both. Whether you're bracing for family drama or excitedly decking the halls, this issue is our offering to you: inspiration, encouragement, comfort, and joy for the days ahead.

In this issue

Peter Reek shares his rich conversation with Rob Bell, the bestselling author and celebrated speaker who traded big stages (with Oprah and Elizabeth Gilbert) for the intimacy of small circles. They discuss the power of good questions, living life in “advanced player mode,” and the magic that happens when we stop trying so hard and allow ourselves to be carried by something greater.

Looking for a little levity and some holiday tips? We’ve got gift lists, great books to cozy up with, delicious potluck recipes, and more. If you’re an introvert just trying to protect your peace,  or you’re hosting and want to enrich your gathering, we’ve got something for you, too! 

Need help navigating hard holiday conversations (and unsolicited political hot takes) at this year’s family gatherings? Check out Jenn Cusick’s insightful piece on compassionate curiosity. And, if you just need a gentle place to spend some time, consider the beautiful Strong Like Water book excerpt from trauma therapist Aundi Kolber.

Wherever and however this season finds you, I hope this issue of InHabit feels like a steady, supportive hand on your shoulder. A reminder in this messy world that you’re not alone, and that there is comfort and joy to be found.

Warmly,